Dan, it is NOT abuse by the rider that causes the problem. No way, no how, uh uh. If someone is telling you that, he is jerking your chain or flat out lying. The problem is poor design that did not meet the requirements of even the standard TC96, much less the higher torque 110. Insufficient spring tension, insufficient travel, insufficient torque capacity. And it only took H-D five years to change all the bikes to the higher capacity SE design, after trying to pass off all the problems the old design caused as "Normal". They knew better very early on, as evidenced by the '08 release of the SE compensator.
Jerry
BTW, the reason some bikes exhibit problems from the beginning, others only after some miles, and some none SO FAR, is rooted in the variability of the parts. Early on it was found that the stock spring packs in the old style weren't consistent and the tension varied a great deal. Some of the early fixes involved adding a spring to the pack, which seemed to eliminate some symptoms.