Topic: Former student murdered (Read 2809 times)

TheVgirl · « **on:** November 01, 2006, 01:16:33 PM »

http://www.wsbtv.com/news/10203967/detail.html

This morning I received the news that one of my former student workers was murdered on Monday in Atlanta. Hearing this news devastated me. Joci was not just a student worker, she was a friend. She was originally from Oregon and came here for a degree in Early Childhood Education. She left Shorter after two years to complete her degree at a state school due to finances. Despite leaving, she kept in touch! She sent out an email in June excited about her "new house." She rode motorcycles, coached cheerleading, and made everyone around her smile! She came by Shorter once a semester just to catch up and go to lunch. I cannot believe this has happened. She is 12 years younger than me and encouraged me to buy my bike! She loved motorcycles and was your typical "tomboy!" I know it's not related to the site, but I know her family needs your thoughts and prayers. Her mom and sister are coming from Oregon to "collect her body." Her dad will be coming back in a few weeks to clean out her house. I cannot imagine the trauma and stress they are going through right now. All because she chose to date a controlling, jealous guy! I hope - if nothing else - this event speaks to young women in the Atlanta area and makes them think twice when their boyfriend becomes too possessive, controlling or jealous.

Midnight Rider · « **Reply #1 on:** November 01, 2006, 01:25:20 PM »

V...so sorry to hear about your friend, and the circumstances of her death.

JR · « **Reply #2 on:** November 01, 2006, 01:33:28 PM »

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http://www.wsbtv.com/news/10203967/detail.html

Special_Ed · « **Reply #3 on:** November 01, 2006, 01:59:13 PM »

V,
So sorry to hear of such a tragic event, my thoughts and prayers for her and her family and friends.

Ed

erniezap · « **Reply #4 on:** November 01, 2006, 04:32:53 PM »

V,

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. Unfortunately, It's not just Atlanta. People countrywide have lost the true value of a life. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your friend's family

DCFIREMANN · « **Reply #5 on:** November 01, 2006, 05:09:06 PM »

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V,

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend.

Fired00d · « **Reply #6 on:** November 01, 2006, 05:09:40 PM »

V,
So sorry to hear of this, and you and her family will be in my prayers. As the father of two daughters this is something that I'm always concerned about. I would hate to be in her father

UK Dave · « **Reply #7 on:** November 01, 2006, 05:14:54 PM »

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V,
So sorry to hear of this, and you and her family will be in my prayers. As the father of two daughters this is something that I'm always concerned about. I would hate to be in her father

mtncop73 · « **Reply #8 on:** November 01, 2006, 06:53:46 PM »

Vgirl,
You and your friends family will be in my prayers. Through this difficult time, I suggest that you do what has been suggested to me....provide support to those in need and be willing to accept support from your friends. I wish that I could tell you more. Hang in there.
Rick

TheVgirl · « **Reply #9 on:** November 01, 2006, 07:05:45 PM »

This is what I told her "adopted" family today:

We'll post the same info here on the site and in the newsletter.

SPIDERMAN · « **Reply #10 on:** November 01, 2006, 08:15:58 PM »

V,
Sorry if I have not posted something here earlier. Words fail when tears fall. I have tried 10 times to post something and choked up every time. My most heartfelt condolences to everyone close to this poor child.

I know Mrs We is great with Google and maybe she can help here. I remember a poem that goes something like this " Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am not there, I do not sleep "
It goes on the express how the person being grieved for is everywhere in everything around those who mourn and they should not be sad.

Vaya con Dios
B B

Fired00d · « **Reply #11 on:** November 01, 2006, 09:02:54 PM »

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I know Mrs We is great with Google and maybe she can help here. I remember a poem that goes something like this

SPIDERMAN · « **Reply #12 on:** November 01, 2006, 09:18:26 PM »

That's it Gary

Thanks so much.

B B

TheVgirl · « **Reply #13 on:** November 01, 2006, 10:28:15 PM »

Her funeral will be held in Oregon on Monday. Her friends will hold a memorial at the coffee shop she worked at part-time on Sunday. I think I'll frame the photo with that poem underneath it to sit on the counter.

I still cry every time I think about it. I just cannot imagine the shock and agony or instant pain that she experienced. How can you be enjoying a dinner with a friend in a public restaurant and someone just walk in and stab you?

?? I cannot imagine the trauma that the other customers experienced by witnessing such a brutal act. I imagine they'll be reliving that nightmare for a while! As MtnCop said, all you can do is offer support and accept it when needed. All I want to do is remember a beautiful young girl with a beautiful heart and beautiful smile. This weekend is Alumni weekend. My other student workers will be here. Seeing them without her will be tough!! SHE SHOULD BE HERE!!!! God help that poor boy's soul because that's his only hope!!

Thank you all for your encouragement. Pray, pray, pray for her family. Particularly her dad as he comes back next week to pack up her house. That will be hard!

V

VaEagle · « **Reply #14 on:** November 01, 2006, 11:49:58 PM »

TheVgirl,
I am very sorry for your loss. Our prayers will be with you and her family.
Please don't beat yourself up over not being there for her. Most people have a public image and it may be different from their true private selves.You can try to get "inside" a person but until they are ready to reveal it you will never know what someone is truly going through. All you really can do is be there when you can for them.
Those who have gone through combat or who have seen a life taken can appreciate how fragile life is and will want to live life to the fullest. I believe we can live on not only in an after life but in those peoples lives we have touched both good or bad.
Maybe you could help the memory of your friend live on by setting up a scholarship fund or award in her name at the school?
I know the parents are going through the hardest thing they are ever going to have to do in their lives. It is the worst trauma to have to loose a child, it is not the natural order to life.
One thing that I bet many of us will do is to hug our families and freinds and let them know how much they mean to us and not take them for granted.

cuthbertss · « **Reply #15 on:** November 01, 2006, 11:57:40 PM »

V Girl:
I am so very sorry for you and for everyone who knew this sweet young lady. The pain and suffering that goes with this type of event is enormous. I wish there was something that I could say to make it all go away, but I simply dont have the words.
I am going to forward the link to the news story to a lady that I know who is very much in denial about an old flame who is in essence, stalking her. she fails to see the danger, perhaps this will open her eyes.

All of us are here for you and for the poor girls family.

Scot

ccr · « **Reply #16 on:** November 03, 2006, 06:19:53 AM »

VGirl, so sorry to hear about the tragedy that has touched your life and left you with a torn heart. We pray for the young lady who was taken from this earth in a gruesome manner, for her friends and families that they may find some peace and allow your friend to move on from this place to a better one. The tragic loss will be hard to cope with, may everyone who needs a hand, find their own way to help. Friends, family, church or work. Whatever feels right, it helps to share this horrendous pain. We pray for the man who murdered her and to his family and friends that they may also find some way to forgive this troubled person. This is a sad testament to our current society. If there is anything at all we can do to help you, please call.

Jamey and Candy

SE05 · « **Reply #17 on:** November 03, 2006, 08:02:56 AM »

V, we are truly sorry to hear of your loss, what a tragedy.

You and Joci's friends and family will be in our prayers. We will have her father in our thoughts and say a special prayer for him next week as he goes through the heartbreaking chore of packing her things.

Nancy & Chip

MYCVO · « **Reply #18 on:** November 03, 2006, 08:19:28 AM »

V
I can't even express or would try to imagine the pain that this young womans' family must be going through. My prayers go out for them. Sorry to hear this news.

Screamin · « **Reply #19 on:** November 03, 2006, 07:05:40 PM »

So much senseless chit in the world. So very sorry for your loss and all are in our prayers.

MISINCT · « **Reply #20 on:** November 04, 2006, 01:35:50 AM »

VGirl the loss of your friend is so senseless,what a waste. I know it is so hard to understand and the pain must be unbearable for her family, I just cant even imagine. My thoughts and prayers are with you and her family. Misinct

hogasm · « **Reply #21 on:** November 04, 2006, 05:17:55 PM »

V, like Screamin said there is so much senseless chit in the world. You and your friends family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Hogasm

TheVgirl · « **Reply #22 on:** November 04, 2006, 07:14:45 PM »

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I believe this is the poem you are speaking of....

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight.
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there -- I do not die.

-- Mary Frye

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Ride Safe,
Fired00d
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Spiderman and Fired00d,
Thanks for the poem. I forwarded it to Joci's family. It touched them so much, they called and asked me to read it at her local memorial tomorrow night here in Marietta right down the road from where she was assaulted. I told them I would try. So, please say a prayer for me tomorrow. I'm a writer, not a speaker and am really worried that I'll screw this one up. I asked my oldest son, who is a speaker and a writer, to go with me for moral support on his way back to school, but he got all choked up and said he couldn't do it. I waited until he got home today to tell him and he said, "Mom, that is the most horrible thing I've ever heard and I can't do it. I remember Jocilyn and I don't want to see her smile in a photograph when her death was so insane."

Today was the big game of the year and it was alumni weekend. After several of the student workers that worked with her came by yesterday, I couldn't bring myself to go to the game.

Thanks again for all your words of kindness. I have all four of my boys here this weekend and I have been overjoyed and acutely aware of how blessed I am!!

V

JR · « **Reply #23 on:** November 04, 2006, 08:43:08 PM »

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Spiderman and Fired00d,
Thanks for the poem.

mdduce · « **Reply #24 on:** November 05, 2006, 08:40:06 AM »

V,I know its not ok or make sense, it tears one apart inside when somenthing so wrong happens,belive me, what the fellow and scripture says is so rite,just have loads of faith and the way you and family hurts will help you get through,this is God way of helping you say good by to a freind and you will see her another time it will be a good reunion for all,Love and feel for all. Mike&Debbie SO SORRY FOR EVERY ONE!

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