Dear Jimmy,
Most of the guys have given you the benefit of their personal opinion, but few responded as you asked with pictures.
Here is my bike with Motolights - the headlights are Phase 7 Trucklites from Harbour Freight.
As to whether they detract from the HD look, well, you decide.
Why you don't see many of them around? They ARE damned pricey!
They don't "bounce around" unless its a really bad road, and even then, unless aiming quite high, should not antagonize other motorists, except for the odd "grumpy old fart", and those are the sort that you want to notice you
right? After all, if you piz them off, they must have seen you