Thanks for all your input, sorry I was unattentive. I thought the forum was going to tell me if anyone responded. It did not I spent the afternoon at my dealer talking through a plan.
So, I took several measurements, But not bracket to axle. This is not so easy a measurement on a shark nose. Two of the measurements I feel are accurate and should be telling. One is, I measured from the bottom of the top tube cover to the center of the fender mount bolts. Given those parts are reused, seems like it's an ok measurement. When I compared the limiteds to the limited lows at the dealer today there was definitely a noticeable and measurable difference in all cases, more than a half inch just not the full inch, which I did not expect to see anyway. I just feel it cannot be the same before and after. The fact that it did not change at all is telling to me. The second was I have a large storage "shelf" in my house garage that I can park under. I have my twin turbo, AWD, 4-wheel steering Stealth under there. Anyway, I sat on the bike, marked a spot on the bottom of the wood frame of the storage area and measured down to the top of the windshield. This also was exactly the same before and after. And, btw, the other measurements were pretty close to the same, including ground clearance, which I did by using my pit bull lift just enough to get it straight up and off the Jiffy Stand without changing the previously mentioned fork and windshield measurements.
So, I have also been thinking they must have packed the 45500158 into a 45500157 box. My dealer is working with me on this and just now called to fill me in on what Harley Tech Support said and what the plan is. Tech Support agreed with my analysis and is shipping another kit out, after they verify the parts in it are the right ones. And they gave my dealer the spring measurements to check. If it turns out be the wrong parts I'm good, they are covering everything. If it turns out the kit is correct, then I will have to pay some labor, but not the whole thing. The problem here is whether to be happy or not, :-), given it did not lower the bike any more than the shocks did in the first place. Which, btw, was the other thing tech support said. He saw notes from other tech folks asking if anyone had seen a case where the fork kit did not lower very much, or at all, after the shocks had been on the bike first. The only reason I have that case is the fork kit was not yet available when I bought the bike. There was only a thought that they had seen about 3/4" drop just from the shocks, so maybe that's all your going to get. Wish I had measured the bike before changing shocks.
Ok, so I see 2 actions for me. One is to get some miles on it this weekend to see if Greg's comment could be correct. Thanks Greg, I was looking for a good reason to take a ride this weekend. The other is if no change after riding do I take my chances and let them tear it apart again and possibly having to foot part of the bill, or do I assume what I have is all I get, and move on. I am thinking if I do not do it I will never know and it will bug me forever.
Oh, one other strange thing here is from what I can tell from comparing specs and part #s on 2015 limiteds, lows, SG, RGs, etc, the '15 cvo rg ultra specs are wrong for ground clearance. Should be 5.3", it says 4.7" which cannot be correct, lows are 4.6" which is where I was hoping to get close to. I am still a bit over 5".
Thanks all, anything else you think of let me know.