Tommy....Like others have said, give yourself some time to get to know who you are again. We often define ourselves by things other than what we truly are inside....work, wife, children, what our family expectations may be, etc. Often, the real you gets lost in the process. You are losing part of your identity in this divorce, and that is being a husband and loving your wife. You have to give yourself time to get accustomed to knowing yourself as a single man again, while maintaining your role as a good father. Unfortunately, there is no way to hurry this process. Force yourself to have as little contact as is possible with the soon to be ex....this will not be easy because of your daughter, but believe me, it will be best for you in the long run. And you must think about what is best for you. Don't give away the farm, property wise. Do what you know is the right thing to do while protecting you and your future in the process. Know that your ex will always be a part of your life, but you can define what part.
There are a LOT of nice women out there looking for a good, kind man. There are also a lot of women out there looking for a meal ticket for them and their kids. After some time passes and you are feeling a bit less hollow inside, start filling that void with a few dates. Have a good time. If you allow yourself the time to heal, you'll be ready for the next relationship in your life, but not before. Everybody has baggage in their life...some people choose to carry only the negative bags and allow those to shape their outlook on life and others that may come into their lives. The bags help define who we are, so carry away the positive, and leave the negative behind. It may be hard to imagine now, but you WILL be happy again. Nothing will ever be the SAME, but it can be BETTER. Allow yourself to have some fun...