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[Keats]

I had an incident that took place over 15 years ago in my neighborhood involving 3 kids and 3 families that all live with in 200 yds of each other.

It all started with one girl did not like following the group of three and got into a fight (not physical) about who should be the the leader.
Now I saw this as something That I should not stick my nose into (nothing good happens when you do).
So the 2 girls have an outright war with each other (power plays) and the parents of these (good friends) girls were also friends.
We all took vacations together, ate together and generally spent a lot of time together.
One parent decides it is time to confront the other parent to try to settle this problem (big big mistake)
Words get exchanged between the Parents feelings are hurt and the end result the girls were friends again and still are and the parents do not speak to each other now it is over 15 years ago.
I was a parent of the 3rd wheel (Boy) and stayed clear, but my lack of action was perceived as taking a side.
They (my son and the girls) are good friends and we still have a block with a DMZ.
What I learned from all of this was that relationships are at times very fragile no matter how long you have had them.
Take care of them
do not abuse them, for they will go away

if no little communication exists,
do not think of the worse possible scenario of the reasonable explanation,
do not jump to conclusions, they are usually wrong

that is the end of my story.

[dlaws01]

And then what happened?

[Capo]

Can I get an AMEN?

[Keats]

And then what happened?

I am still friendly with one family and the other will not speak with me (been over 15 years)
Not sure why, I stayed out of it, but the one that will not speak probably was upset that I did not take their side.
The fact that neither was completely right or completely wrong was completely lost.

The thing that I took from this encounter was .
1. Sometimes there is no winner no matter what you do.
2. Think before you interfere/intervene and make sure the gains are going to be worth the loss.
3. Do not fight others battles.
4. these lessons apply to everyday life including forums.

[JR]

Have you ever tried to reconcile the relationship over the past 15 years?

[Sean M Cary]

I just move every 2-3 years and nobody gets to know us well enough to hate us...

So maybe you should just join the Marine Corps and move around??     Hell, I didn't even know the names of the folks past our immediate neighbors in Fredericksburg.   

Works for me 

[Keats]

Have you ever tried to reconcile the relationship over the past 15 years?

Several times with no success

Life goes on and life to short to hold any ill will
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[Buffy]

3. Do not fight others battles.
4. these lessons apply to everyday life including forums.

Another life lesson for all of us....

[JR]

Several times with no success

Life goes on and life to short to hold any ill will

Boy that's for sure! What a shame that one's heart can get so hard for so long!  How sad!

[LRebel]

I hate crap like this.  Life is too short for stuff like this.

I can get along with almost everyone.  I don't become close friends with everyone, but I can get along with most everyone.

If there is tension between me and folks I know, I will make an attempt to reconcile the problem.  Whether I think is is my fault or not...I do the right thing. 

If they want to maintain their hard feelings and live in a constant state of anger, that's their problem.  I don't stay mad and I don't let someone's anger pull me down or have any control over my attitude.  I always figure that after I make a honest good-faith attempt to reconcile the problem, I've done my part... I shake it off and move on