Thanks for all the great replies. So here's what I have for now. Went to the dealer after work last night and my bike was in 3000 pieces. They had it all tore apart, I mean really tore apart. Therefore, can't get a second opinion. They've done my work for 10 yrs and I've been happy with them, except for their attitude on synthetic oil. The lifter bearing went out and a chip came off the lifter housing that hold the bearing in place. This caused wear on the cam, which got into the oil pump, which got to the pistons and rings, which got to the crankshaft. They said they have never seen this much metal in the oil pan. They showed me all the pieces and they were tore up and worn pretty good. I'll post pics when I get them back.
Parts so far are $4800, plus labor. No extended warranty either.
Amsoil and synthetic in general is fine while the bike is running. They say the problem is when the bike sits for long period of time, the "cling factor" is so low that there is no oil film on the parts above the oil line. If some rust or pitting gets started it will cause faster wear when the bike is started again, before oil can saturate the area. My bike had been sitting in a heated shop for 5 months during the winter. I rode it 200 miles on the first ride of the season and started to hear a noise, which supports this theory. Then I rode another 200 miles the following week to a meeting and on the way home the oil pressure went to 15 and at the stop sign went to 0, but the oil light never came on. When the rpms were increased the oil went back to 15 the rest of the way home.
But I didn't have any problems the previous two seasons when I did the same thing.
I have contacted HD corporate and they are going to contact the dealer to find out the cause of problem. I told them he said it was the synthetic oil and they didn't say much, just gave me a case #. I also contacted Amsoil and they want an oil sample and to see the damaged parts. The oil only has 400 miles on it, so other than a lot of metal shavings, they won't find much.
There will be a lot of finger pointing and everyone will be wrong and I won't get a single cent. But I'll keep you all informed.