
Amen brother, here in South Texas where we just expereinced the hottest summer on record (59 day over 100, previous was 39) the stock 110's with 93 octane will ping when it's over 100 pretty regular.
The tuners reduce the light throttle to cruising AFR to about 13.8. I rode my 09 for almost 2000 miles before I removed the Cat (at Fullsac's recommendation as well as others), installed a Stage I, Rinehart slipons (which came on the bike from the dealer) and the PC V with autotune. The best gas mileage from pre mod's was 42 and the average was under 39 not matter how I rode it. With two up, it was 36.
Post mod's, I average over 41 two up and about 40 as a single (I like to twist the throttle). The bike runs cooler ( a lot cooler and no pinging) and increased the HP by over 12 and the torque about 14. Jamie at fuel Moto set the base map and I have not had to do anything to the map (let the autotune work). My 09 will outrun any of the SEUC's in the area that haven't gone wild with new cam's, heads etc.
I ride to Colorado every year into the mountains in July, temp's when I leave are 100 plus and within two days are in the 30's in the mornings at 10,000 plus feet. Both of my SEUC's (until the mod's) did not like the extreme variations. After the mod's, absolutely no issues. One of my buddies has a 09 SEUC Cowboy Blue and Silver, borrowed my bike for 50 miles andgot to Texas and spent the $1000 for pipes, Stage I ac, non-cat header and he went with the Mastertune TTS and has no issues.
I think you are right that HD tries to make it more difficult for the aftermarket guys to adapt to the changes. The last I heard, ThunderMax had still not released a fly by wire system for the 09's.
Ride often and ride safe.
Got mine where I like it. No changes in over 6,000 miles. At least to the engine.