One additional point I'd like to add to Kraut's post. This is not 1960, when fuel tanks where vented through a little hole in the gas cap and would burp fuel that would blow or run down to your crotch if you didn't pay attention. Fuel tank safety requirements these days include venting systems that do not dump fuel on the rider. I would run, not walk, to your fearless dealer and demand they fix whatever is wrong with that fuel cap. No way it should be blowing fuel on the rider. And the fact that more than one person seems to be experiencing this leads me to believe that you should notify H-D and possibly NHTSA as well. And btw, even if the fuel that blows back on you doesn't ignite, you really don't want what's in motor fuel these days on your body.
Oh yeah, fill it on the jiffy stand and you will be less likely to overfill.
Jerry