Come on folks, don't start drinking the Harley Kool-Aid again. The fairly numerous 110 failures (and the TC96 failures you don't hear about much on this site) weren't caused by people running their engines below 2500 rpm or over 3500 rpm. Anyone who really believes that needs to sign up for a remedial Engines 101 course at the local trade school.
Some people beat the snot out of their CVO from the day they picked it up, and haven't had even one replacement engine. And others just rode normally and have had two or three engines in less than two years. It's all about the sorry state of affairs at H-D, not about babying the engine and keeping it in a narrow rpm band to make it last.
True "lugging" of the engine is not necessarily defined strictly by rpm, btw. It's more of a function of load versus rpm, as in heavy load at low rpm. Cruising normally down a flat road at 1800 rpm is not lugging. Doing so and then whacking the throttle open without downshifting to an appropriate gear, now that's lugging.
'bear, I understand being gun shy after all you've been through, but don't let it ruin your enjoyment of the ride. Your problems weren't caused by your choice of oils, and they weren't caused by the way you ride. They were caused by the folks at H-D who cheapened the crap out of the product and decided to accept poor quality from themselves and their vendors. And now they want to get into your head and make you think it was all your fault. Don't fall for it.
Jerry