I would suggest at this point that you try to hear bikes similar to yours (103ci TC) with different pipes on them. Try to find something that you like and go with them. I know this may not be want you want to hear now, but to prevent you from all the hassle of taking off and installing exhaust systems you aren't happy with this may be your best bet. [smiley=nixweiss.gif]
I can tell that you are now getting really frustrated and understand how you can feel. When it came time for me picking my exhaust I was able to hear them on a bike similar to mines (03 SERK), and actually ride the bike so I knew what I was getting. Yes they are loud, but I came from a V&H 2into1 Pro-Pipe w/competition baffle, so I was used to my bikes being on the loud side. Try going to some bike events (bike nights, bike shows, rallies, etc) where you may be able to find a better variety of exhaust systems to compare to. Ask owners if you can hear the bikes run (try standing behind, in front, and possible sit on bike w/it running if the owner will allow you), then try to find something you can live with. Good luck.
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Ride Safe,
Fired00d
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