The problem with the bike is on HD as a quality control issue as it seems that a component is faulty or was installed/assembled incorrectly and HD should be doing a lot more in my opinion to make it right. The issue with the CSR at HD customer service is also on HD as that to me is either and attitude or a training issue with the CSR, if a training issue that reflects very poorly on the management at HD customer (dis)service - or higher up the corporate chain.
The problems getting the bike repaired falls squarely upon the dealership in question and the management and ownership should be doing more to address the concerns. Especially when it concerns someone's SAFETY. If the "tech" working on the bike is stumped they should be asking for guidance from the service manager and if the service manager can't provide the guidance required they should be in contact with HD tech support (they do have one of those departments, don't they??). After four,count 'em,four attempts to diagnose and repair the clutch nobody in either the dealership or at HD thought to look at the Illustrated Parts Breakdown to see if it was possible that the fluid was "disappearing" into the transmission? none of these folks thought "lets drain the quart of oil out of the transmission and 1)measure it 2) see if the clutch fluid has contaminated it"
I admit I'm not an expert in fluid dynamics but it seems to me that the Syn3/gear oil in the transmission would NOT want to mix well with the DOT fluid in the clutch assembly, therefore any cross contamination would be readily apparent.
Seals,gaskets and O-rings fail all the time. Sometimes from wear and tear which is normal, sometimes from faulty manufacturing of the component and sometimes somebody assembles thing wrong. I know I've messed up a few gasket and O-rings myself, stuff happens.
IMHO any decent shop would listen to a customers concerns and do what was needed to address them and not just top of a fluid reservoir on a critical control system REPEATEDLY and tell the customer it's just got air in the system, unless of course they have no clue as to how to properly bleed the system the FIRST time.
When I stopped in today it took the service department at my dealership less than 5 minutes to look up the parts breakdown and see that it IS possible for the fluids to mix - even though they admit to never seeing it happen on HD hydraulic clutch - YET.
So to answer your question Jerry, no your not being overly negative regarding HD's culpability with this and other problems some have experienced.
To be fair though there are some great dealerships out there that will do their best for their customers - the challenge is finding them. Iv'e got six dealers within an hour of my house.....only two of them will ever service my bike or sell me the parts I need, and that's by my choosing..