harlee79,
I am 6'4" Tall and I had the same problem with my mirrors as you are having on your '09 CVO Softail Springer. I am so tall that all was seeing in my mirrors was my shoulders and not the traffic behind me.
What I did to correct this was to place the '08 CVO spacers under the risers on my '09 CVO. If you take a look at the '08 CVO Springer they have two spacers under the risers so that the handlebars wouldn't impact the gas tank as you make tight turns. Ask the parts manager at your local dealer to give you a look at the parts catalog (handle bar page) of the '08 CVO Springer.
This was changed on the '09 CVO as they used handlebars with a bigger upsweep from the risers. You will get about an inch and half boost from these spacers under your risers on your '09 CVO. It was just enough to give me a peek over my shoulders.
By the way, you will not have to replace your throttle, clutch or brake cables either - they have plenty of length for these spacers.
Best of luck,
Jon21