Not speaking specifically to the ortho side of things but to the general aspect of face time with the doc and, more importantly, getting questions answered from the most trained professional; you're being treated terribly.
Unfortunately it is the case that we deal with the Medical Arts and Sciences. It's not all science despite the impression the profession would like us to have. The trouble comes when the "Arts" side becomes more finger painting than finer work. Or, in your case, when they don't even open the box of crayons.
It is important to know the guy, to get an impression. You can't measure everything about the guy from short office meetings. But you can measure some. When my dad was still alive his death was an upcoming and drawn out episode over years that stemmed from a malpractice incident. It was a doc that was a referral we didn't get to meet before a hastily performed back surgery. Meeting the guy later alarm bells went off in his presentation and demeanor.
Going through the myriad other docs over the years that followed most are competent (or at least well intended) professionals. One cardiac guy was a drunk though. When twice in consecutive visits you're sure he's drunk you know to run away and not let the bastard touch you. Another came in prep before a scheduled colostomy surgery having done absolutely no review of the case ahead of him. Didn't know who the patient was, what the work was to be or what his complicated case history involved so could have made no preparations.
They don't act like it but these guys work for us. We pay them. If they won't see you, talk to you, answer your questions and thereby prove at least the perception of competence our hiring them demands leave them the hell alone. Do th due diligence on them too. Check the history and referrals. But the face time is important.