Sounds like my '08 SEUC.. Absolutely hates the heat. Lots of valve chatter, especially when you first start it after it warms up and you get underway.
After riding for awhile, she settles in & quiets down. You probably won't hurt the engine with the traffic so much, but out here(so.cal) I try to split lanes if possible
when I'm caught in gridlocked traffic. Problem for me is I ride quiet,(stock CVO cans) so I sort of risk getting hit when I have to split lanes. Rode a '96 cube
'09 Ultra Classic for a couple of hours 2 or 3 weeks ago, got her hot as could, no engine noise, at all.. The 110, from my experience is more noisey,(valve noise,pinging, etc.) But, it is quicker, for sure. Performance, depends on what your used to riding. Compared to the stock 96 cube, much better..Compared to a 80 cubic inch Shovel much, much better. Compared to a built Screamin' Eagle 95 cube or higher,( cams, heads, etc.) motor, maybe not so much better. All I can say is for me personally, the bike as a whole moves me down the interstate nicely, I have no problems with grades, and passing big trucks and motorhomes, and I don't have a string of traffic riding my rear section. I understand your complaints though. Try to get away from gridlock traffic. If you do alot of sitting around idling, you risk the possibility of damaging the engine, because you have no air blowing across the cylinders, and the engine is over 100 inches displacement. By the way, mine loves riding at 2-3 in the morning or winter riding temps, engine runs like a top then. Until they introduce a liquid cooled model, I'm afraid we are always going to have heat issues.. Hope this helps you in some kind of way..