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[The Bolvine Gigolo!]

Dave,
So sorry to hear about loosing your Dad, I lost both of my parents a few years ago. There's not a day go by that I don't think about them, maybe something they would have said,or done. And hey it's really funny how you'll find yourself acting and being just like your dad.
Take care and be safe.


Don

[RedFXR2]

And hey it's really funny how you'll find yourself acting and being just like your dad.

Ain't THAT the truth.

[RJ749]

Ain't THAT the truth.

Red, its that apple from the tree thing, you start out thinking you aren't anything like them and by the time your light comes on you are so similar its almost scary.

What a great deal, no one I'd rather be like than my Dad.

Dave, nothing like a ride with great memories that keep you close.

[Gettinold]

THANKS YOU GUYS. [smiley=xyxthumbs.gif]

[2soaper]

My thoughts and prayers are with you Dave. I went through a similar experience about 5 years ago with my father. You sound like your very close with your dad, for that your blessed. You can look back without regret for time not spent together.  I on the other hand had a relationship with my father that it seemed like we were mad at each other most the time. To much alike I guess.  During his last days we made amends and said goodbye. That was a nice thing about having time.  Once again I’m very sorry about what you’re having to experience.   2soaper

[bigmanken]

Sorry to read of your loss. It is a tough time when you lose a parent. I lost Mom and Dad in a 6 month period. That was a couple of years ago. I found God has a way of replacing the grief with fond memories. I was fortunate to have great relationships with both of them.

Keep riding and remember good times.

Ken

[amigo Jorge]

IM ONLY POSTING  THIS BECAUSE OF ALL THE GOOD PEOPLE THAT ARE MEMBERS OF THIS SITE AND HOW THEY CARE AND REACH OUT TO HELP OTHERS IN A TIME OF NEED.
I WAS INFORMED THIS PAST FRIDAY MY FATHER IS TERMINALY ILL WITH LUNG CANCER AND HAS ONLY A SHORT TIME LEFT WITH US. IM WAITING FOR HIS RELEASE FROM THE HOSPITAL SO I CAN GO SPEND SOME TIME WITH HIM BEFORE HE PASSES. HE'S ONLY 69 AND HE STILL RIDES & LOVES TO GOFAST. I HAD THE TIME TO GO SPEND SOME TIME WITH HIM THIS PAST SUMMER FOR SOME GOOD QUALITY TIME OF RIDING,FISHING,& A COUPLE COLD BEERS. AS MOST OF KNOW OUR FATHERS TAUGHT US MOST OF THE THINGS THAT WE ENJOY DOING TODAY, SUCH AS MOTORCYCLES,HUNTING,FISHING,AND MOST IMPORTANT FAMILY MORALS. MY DAD & I ARE BROTHERS NAD EVEN THOUGH WE LIVE 1200 MILES APART WE ALWAYS CALL EACH OTHER ON THE WEEKENDS FOR A CHAT. THIS IS THE PART THAT WE'LL MISS!!!I GLAD I GOT THE CHANCE TO SHARE THIS WITH ALL YOU THAT READ THIS AND IF YOUR PARENTS ARE STILL WITH YOU,JUST CALL THEM AND TELL THEM TOU LOVE THEM, BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN GOD CAN CALL THEM HOME.


               GOD BLESS   DAVE

I am sorry Dave to hear that...I lost my father three years ago and also we were buddies...but the worst came two years ago when I lost my only daughter and my grandson by a drunk driver...

[Gettinold]

GOMEZ
THANKS FOR THE THOUGHTS & BACK AT YOU TOO. I REMEMBER YOUR YOUR POST, IT BROUGHT A TEAR TO MY EYE.
                                   GOD BLESS

[Gettinold]

SORRY TO HAVE TO BRING THIS POST BACK UP BUT HAVE BEEN FEELING VERY LOST NOT BEING ABLE TO TALK TO MY DAD, SO I WENT BACK AND READ ALL THE REPLIES FROM MY POST THAT I MADE TO SEE IF IT WOULD HELP. WELL IT DID,AND I WANT TO THANK EVERYONE AGAIN,ESPECIALY EVERYONE THAT ATTENDED MV. IM IM SORRY THAT I DIDNT GET TO THANK EACH OF YOU PERSONALY FOR YOUR MUCH NEEDED SUPPORT DURING THAT TIME. A SPECIAL THANKS TO JR,NO WORDS CAN THANK HIM ENOUGH, SPECIAL ED,FOR PULLING ME OUT OF THE CROWD AND THANKING ME, 103 FOR HIS EXTRA KIND WORDS OF WISDOM, AND LAST BUT LEAST..... A MAN I HARDLY GOT TO TALK TO, PROBALY BECAUSE I WAS HAVING SO MUCH FUN,OR SLEEPING, BIG B SPIDERMAN. HIS REPLIES ARE WHAT MADE IT ALL WORTH BRINGING IT BACK UP AGAIN. THANKS BRIAN. [smiley=drink.gif]  

[RJ749]

Dave,

No need to be sorry about wanting to talk about your Dad or the friends you have here.

I have found you never get over the loss, the immediate pain lessens, but the loss is always there.  I find myself talking about or quoting my dad all the time.  He was a huge part of my life as your dad was of yours.

I was fortunate to be able to spend a lot of quality time with my dad and we talked on the phone all the time.  I could tell you stories all day long about him.

I cheerish those memories and still talk with him regularly.  He passed nine years ago now and it seems like just yesterday.

Rog

[Gettinold]

Dave,

No need to be sorry about wanting to talk about your Dad or the friends you have here.

I have found you never get over the loss, the immediate pain lessens, but the loss is always there.  I find myself talking about or quoting my dad all the time.  He was a huge part of my life as your dad was of yours.

I was fortunate to be able to spend a lot of quality time with my dad and we talked on the phone all the time.  I could tell you stories all day long about him.

I cheerish those memories and still talk with him regularly.  He passed nine years ago now and it seems like just yesterday.

Rog

THANKS AGAIN ROG  

[SPIDERMAN]

Dave,
       No need to thank anyone. This site is a refuge from whatever trouble the world lays at your doorstep. It's a place to come to share- - - your joy, your sorrow and everything in between. When your Dad passed, it renewed my resolve to enjoy the time I still have with my dad. Many years passed where he and I were estranged. We are not now and I'm the one that should be thanking you.

VcD
       B B

[Gettinold]

Dave,
       No need to thank anyone. This site is a refuge from whatever trouble the world lays at your doorstep. It's a place to come to share- - - your joy, your sorrow and everything in between. When your Dad passed, it renewed my resolve to enjoy the time I still have with my dad. Many years passed where he and I were estranged. We are not now and I'm the one that should be thanking you.

VcD
       B B

BIG B, I RELIZE THAT NOW AFTER GOING BACK AND REREADING THE THREAD AGAIN. JUST WOULD OF LIKE TO THANK YOU PERSONALY

[Special_Ed]

Hi Dave,

Reading the replies to your post helped me too as the lost of our fathers was very close. I feel the lost of my father everday and miss him constantly. As Brian said, this site helps with all kind of things. I completely understand in regards to talking with your Dad, I said that very thing to Donna not three days ago. But Roger is right too, I talk to my Dad every day, he knows how much I miss him and there are times when I know he's standing right with me as your Dad is standing with you. I'm really glad I got the opportunity to met you and shake your hand and as the others have said there is no need to say thanks, we're here for each other when times are good or bad.

Ed

[TheVgirl]

Reading this thread just reminded me why I enjoy this site so much!  It's not just a forum or a chat room!  It's a place where strangers have connected because they have one thing in common and became friends!!  I have made more friends on this site than I ever imagined.  I have met more people from this site face-to-face than I thought possible and have very real and tangible friendships with people from "the cvo site!"  

Gettinold, I read this thread not too long before my first official "road trip" from NC to MD.  I remember tears running down my face when I read some of the posts.  I remember reading about Special_Ed losing his dad around the same time (and no one knew) and I felt the pain in his post.  I remember seeing pics of grown men with their parents and grandparents and thinking how odd because this was a "biker" site!  (Kind of like when Matt aka Shirtman said he never imagined a request for a PINK shirt on this site!) I actually began weeping when I reread the "AND IF YOUR PARENTS ARE STILL WITH YOU,JUST CALL THEM AND TELL THEM TOU LOVE THEM, BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN GOD CAN CALL THEM HOME."  I felt a sense of urgency like someone was tapping on my head saying, "Ding! Ding! Ding! Ding!  Hello...are you listening?"  Unfortunately, I'm plagued with stubborness!

DCFiremann (aka Mike aka Dawg) and I had discussed this thread on a couple of occassions and the comments on here and the "lack of a relationship" I had with my mom.  I have tons of respect for Mike because he once risked his life by snapping at me when I said something negative about my mother and told me, "I don't care!  That's YOUR MOTHER!  You wouldn't be alive if it wasn't for HER!  Don't ever say something like that around me again!"  Ironically, I was with Mike on that road trip in WV - stopped on the side of the road taking pictures - when my phone rang and in 30 seconds my life changed.  I found out my mom needed a heart transplant and wouldn't survive long without one.  All I could think about was what if she dies before I tell her I love her!  A few hours later, we hit a deer.  I remember panicking as I slid into the ditch because I was afraid I would not be able to make amends with her before she died if I was seriously injured (or died) and knew I had to get out of that ditch so I could call her!  Then I saw Mike rolling over-and-over and then coming to a stop and not moving, and I had the same thought!  I thought, "Oh God, not NOW please!"  I was afraid to look at him for fear that he wouldn't move again!  I was so relieved to hear him groan because I was not prepared to deal with the thoughts or feelings I had at that exact moment!  (It took a LONG time for that to happen, didn't it, Dawg?)  As soon as my feet hit the pavement, I was calling my dad to see if I could talk to my mom.  The entire time I rode with Mike's brother to take him and the bike home, I just wanted to come home!  After posting about the accident, I read this thread more than a few times!  I drove 3 hours with full-leg brace and aircast on my ankle to see my mom the next day to make sure I didn't lose the chance to make things right!!  And if you remember, she was so excited about me owning my own bike and taking a roadtrip on a Harley AND TELLING EVERY POOR NURSE THAT WOULD LISTEN that she completely forgot about being sick and I forgot about all the years we barely spoke!  That's when I decided I needed to buy my parents a bagger so they could take at least one road trip before she goes home to meet the Lord!  (BTW, they are both scheduled to take the MSF next weekend on their anniversary!)

This site has taught me a LOT (and obviously not just about CVO's and Harley-Davidson)!  I owe you and all the guys on this site a thank you!  I have always been strong-willed and very independent.  And as I told our "site chaplain" once, I am not a girlie-girl and not very feminine-minded!  I never allowed myself to be weak or show emotion because I didn't like "having girly moments" and it took a bunch of men discussing their love for their parents and grandparents to make me realize that showing emotion was NOT a weakness!

And, on top of that, Dave, if I had not forwarded a PM from JR to the one friend from this site who knew the most about my mom and all the feelings this thread had invoked, there might not have been a "window of opportunity" opened to discuss other feelings and we'd still be "just friends!"

So, you should NEVER apologize for discussing your thoughts or feelings on this site!!  Even when you don't know it, someone somewhere needs to read it, hear it, or say it!!

Thank you!

V