I guess that depends on what kind of marriage or relationship you have or want. Telling any woman I've ever had a relationship with that "I wear the pants" would go over about as well as a Turd in a Punch Bowl. Not many women I know are that submissive, and personally I don't want one who is because it then would not be a partnership, but a dictatorship. I respect my wife too much to do something like that to her, even if I thought I could get away with it. But that's just me...
My wive(s) over the years (I've had 3, but not all at the same time) and I just have a simple agreement that everyone chips in for the expenses proportionately; major purchases are discussed before they are made; I don't have to get "permission" to buy odds and ends or trinkets, regardless of whether they are bike related or just something I can't live without at the time, and neither does my wife. If I'm going to spend what would be considered a "significant" amount of money on something, I feel that it's the right thing to do if I discuss it with her, and the same for her. That way there are no surprises in the mail that either of us are going to get pissed off about. It all works out and I've never been with anyone where spending reasonably is an issue for either of us.
You are absolutely dead on with the first paragraph, and I agree with you 100%, and I NEVER said anything about how "I" wear the pants in the family, and I would never tell my wife that I do. What I did say, was that Ultrarider1 just told us who was "wearing" the pants in his family, and as he replied ----- his wife does in fact tell him what to wear (style, color and design), and I guess it does not bother him to do as she says, and that is certainly fine if that is his choice. Hopefully he does not let her do that because he is afraid of her, as that would be an abusive relationship. My wife and I have mutual respect for each other and after 30 years of being together, we pretty much know where the "line" should be drawn. BUTTTT, since I moved out of my parents home in 1969, I no longer need to ask mom or dad (or anyone else) if I can spend money on my CVO, which was the original question of this post I do believe??? I am on my third CVO and I have never asked my wife for permission to purchase any of them or ANY accessories that I have bought to put on them. On the other hand when my wife decided to trade in her 2004 V-Rod for that shiney new 2006 Fatboy CVO, she in turn did not ask for my permission, but she did call me at work to have me stop by Sun Harley here in Denver to look at the bike she just put a deposit on. We are both adults, and make approximately the same amount of income each year, and just because we have a marriage license does not mean either of us has to "ask permission" to buy anything. We are both adults and know what our checking account can withstand. My wife works in a mostly dominate man's world selling trucks for a large dealership, and she comes home all of the time laughing about the "wiennies" she works with that have to ask wifey for any thing they want to spend money on and get permission to go ride with their buddies. She thinks it is as pathetic as I do. Any big purchase that either of us makes is usually agreed upon before hand and we have talked it over. But trust me, if I want a new bike, chrome for that bike, a new seat for that bike, or anything else for my CVO, truck, gun safe, etc ---- I will buy it. PERIOD. I will not ask for permission to purchase ANYTHING for that CVO in my garage, as hdaliaconis asked about. I just bought a new Kimber Chrimson Ultra Carry, and the wife never knew I purchased it until I was loading it and putting it in my new Comp-tac holster. Also it is not just men that wear the pants in the family as was noted by Ultrarider1. Apparently it is not always the woman that is submissive, In his case as he wrote, it is the man. Can't we all just get along?
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